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A recent edition of the Abu Dhabi English-edition daily, The National, approached the impostor syndrome from a unique angle.

Most articles focus on the anxiety of waiting for the other shoe to drop. In a refreshing twist, this reporter from the Middle East instead emphasized the upside of this tendency to feel less capable than you really are.

Namely, impostor syndrome can be an indicator that you care about your work.

It’s true that people who feel like impostors do indeed care deeply about the quality of their work. So to ensure they do a stellar job people with impostor syndrome tend to study harder, work longer, cross every i and dot every t. After all, we don’t want to go off half-cocked, especially if our actions affect other people. And we certainly don’t want to promise something unless we’re absolutely certain we can deliver.

However, that caring can come at a heavy price.

For example, “impostors” who equate competence with perfection believe every aspect of their work must be exemplary – not just some or even most of the time, but 100 percent of the time. Anything less results in harsh inner criticism coupled with deep shame at this perceived “failure.”

Precisely because there is such shame in failing, some avoid attempting anything new or difficult altogether. After all, getting things “right” takes a lot of effort, energy, and aggravation. It’s much easier not to even try than to put yourself through those paces and risk the humiliation of coming up short.

Even if you are extremely motivated, success is rarely satisfying because you always believe you could have done even better. You get into a good school but are disappointed because you could have gotten into a better one. You deliver a top-notch presentation but kick yourself for not remembering to make some minor point. You broker a major transaction only to wonder if you could have struck an even better deal.

Perfectionism is a hard habit to break because it is self-reinforcing.

Because you do over-prepare, you often turn out a stellar performance – which in turn reinforces your drive to maintain that perfect record. But it’s a huge set up. Because when you expect you and your work to always be perfect, it’s not a matter of “if” you will be disappointed but “when.”

You don’t need to relinquish a quest for excellence or do things willy-nilly. But with some obvious exceptions like performing surgery or flying an airplane and the like, not everything we do deserves 100 percent.

It’s a matter of being selective about where you put your efforts and not wasting time agonizing over routine tasks when an adequate effort is all that is required. You see, rather than enabling your success, perfectionist thinking is actually a gigantic barrier.

The late author Jennifer White said it best when she wrote: “Perfectionism has nothing to do with getting it right. It has nothing to do with having high standards. Perfectionism is a refusal to let yourself move ahead.”

It’s that last line that is so powerful.

Caring about one’s work can also show up in the faulty thinking that we need to know a subject backwards and forwards before speaking up in a meeting or offering an opinion for fear of being wrong. If you accept the false notion that you need to know everything there possibly is to know before you consider yourself remotely competent, you may not even attempt things you’re perfectly capable of doing.

As coaching legend John Wooden said, “It’s what you learn after you know it all that counts.”

There is no “end” to knowledge. When you try to know everything, especially in fast-moving and information-dense fields like technology and medicine, it’s like trying to get to the end of the internet. It’s simply not possible.

The quest for ultimate knowledge is an unreachable mirage. Instead relax and just do the best you can. Besides you don’t need to know everything. You just need to be smart enough to figure out who does and take it from there.

You can and should care about your work. It’s a matter of balance.

Perfectionists are welcome to hold onto that pursuit of high standards. Just shed the shame you feel when you fall short. Those who embrace the knowledge version of perfectionism can still value the importance of knowledge. Just ditch the unrealistic expectation that you should know it all.

Valerie Young

About Valerie Young

Valerie Young is an internationally-recognized expert on impostor syndrome. She’s spoken to over 80,000 people at such diverse organizations as Boeing, Apple, IBM, Procter & Gamble, BP, Facebook, Harvard, Stanford, MIT and American Women in Radio and Television. Her award-winning book, The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women (Crown Business) is now available in five languages.

5 Responses to “Is the Impostor Syndrome All Bad?”

  1. Kim

    Thank you so much for your writings. I just discovered the concept of the Impostor syndrome and finally understand what I’ve been feeling all through graduate school. I am a grad student in professional counseling and a stay-at-home housewife. From previous posts I’ve learned I’m a ‘expert’ type impostor because I feel like I have to know everything before I can call myself knowledgable. I attend an online program and I think that adds to my feelings of inadequacy. It feels like the grading system is more lenient and therefore, perhaps, I’m not doing as well as I should be. Additionally, with no physical support system I don’t feel sure about how well I’m retaining information…if I know what I should up to this point. Obviously I realize that practicum and the training license will give me the most valuable experience but I doubt whether I’m up to par to date.

    I just appreciate being able to identify those feelings and know I’m not alone, I’m not crazy, and I’m not expected to be know everything. Thanks again.

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  2. Gabriela Scherrer

    Thank you for that,

    I am a 25 year old dancer. For the longest time I have been trying to pursuit my career in Dance as a professional, well known, respectable and desirable dancer. Often enough I feel that there is so much to know and so many hours of practice I have to complete before even daring to call myself a professional dancer. Despite comments from audience about how great they think I was, I never felt I was “good enough” “Sure, they know nothing about dance so anything looks great for them” I often think. I first have to be perfect, then I can have my career, well the phrase Jennifer White said …
    Perfectionism its a refusal to let yourself move ahead” stroke me. I am so afraid of failure and not being good enough that I am not even trying!! Wow

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  3. Cathy Parlitsis

    Just wanted to say I’m a huge fan! I love your articles and just bought your book. Can’t wait to read it! Thanks for keeping us moving in the right direction. 🙂

    Reply

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